When we think of things to overlook in each other — especially when dealing with a friend or choosing a life partner — we mostly think of looks, status, and other petty stuff. We often fail to remember that we all are different in some way, and are bound to occasionally act a certain way which might not be so pleasing to others. And I think that it’s quite unfair to expect from others what we ourselves cannot offer — perfection.
Every single person we meet can (and probably will) disappoint us in the long run. If we canceled everyone for every little disappointment, we’d keep jumping from person to person, or push everyone away and end up alone.
If we kept piling up tiny bits of disappointments, they would one day become an overwhelming heap of apathy, or worse, repulsion. We’re all disappointments on some days; pick your disappointment and hold on to them.
Learn to forgive. We often think that we have forgiven just because we aren’t actively expressing our displeasure. But if we still hold against a person what they did to us, we haven’t really forgiven.
We mustn’t forget, but we can forgive for inner peace, greater good, or a day when we might need some forgiveness too.
“But if you pardon (them) and overlook, and forgive (their faults), then verily Allāh is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”
At-Taghabun - 64:14
And that’s today’s cup of tea.